Hypnotizing your wife: A Guide to a better Marriage

For many people, when you hear the word “hypnotist,” the first thing that comes to mind is a person swinging a pocket watch in your face and making you do whatever they wish.

Fortunately, the art of hypnosis doesn’t match such stereotypical portrayals.

In medicine, particularly psychology, hypnosis is known as hypnotherapy and is often used to help patients relax. 

In hypnotherapy, a willing participant allows the hypnotist to induce a hypnotic state through verbal repetition, visualization, or both.

So far, hypnotherapy is proven to help reduce and treat pain in participants. Hypnosis can also help with mental health by reducing anxiety, stress, and more. 

Real Definition of Hypnosis

Generally, many would define hypnosis as a trance that leaves you in a sleep-like state.

However, it is more than that. According to psychologists and multiple participants, hypnosis enables intense focus, attention, vivid imagination, and tremendous suggestibility. 

What you may observe as a zoned-out state in a person under a trance is, actually, extra awareness.

Different participants report different feelings when under hypnosis.

Some feel completely relaxed, others feel detached from any actions they carry out in that state, but other individuals remain fully aware and can still communicate with the hypnotist. 

So far, experiments carried out over the years have demonstrated the power of hypnosis in medical situations.

By altering an individual’s perception, professional hypnotists can instruct participants not to feel pain or uncomfortable and irritating sensations.

Hypnosis can also help with behavioral patterns that limit your quality of life. 

Hypnosis and Marriage 

Marriage takes serious work, whether we like it or not. Like a ship going through the occasional storms, a good ship is ready for the tumultuous weather ahead.

Before you give up on your marriage too soon, it could be a good idea to try out all possible ways to get back on track. Stress is a natural part of life and all marriages.

Internal conflicts in either individuals or external pressures brought on by issues like finances, relatives, and work can affect how well your relationship thrives.

Apart from discussing any problems out during marriage counseling, there’s the hypnosis option. Some marriage counselors use hypnosis as one of their ways to save relationships.

Hypnosis can help both partners open up and air their frustrations. From there, the husband and wife can see things from the other’s perspective, re-evaluate situations, and possibly heal and rekindle lost feelings. 

How Can Hypnosis Help Your Marriage? 

Varying issues may seem impossible to get over and get in the way of a great marriage.

However, if both partners are willing to work through the problems to improve the marriage, then hypnosis can be a vital tool to improve the relationship and get over the difficult hurdles.

Many studies have been done to uncover and get to the bottom of such concerns. 

Think of issues such as afflicted self-esteem. Multiple partners often find themselves unable to resolve certain conflicts simply because they may not realize that the issues are deep-rooted.

Imagine if you could uncover these unresolved feelings and finally understand why your wife acts the way she sometimes does? At the same time, your wife would get to see how some of her actions negatively impact the marriage.

Whether it all stems from a troubled upbringing or past events, she would finally see how her cumulative negative emotions have been affecting the marriage and standing in the way of progress.

Hypnosis can help your wife learn how to handle any psychological situations without putting a dent into the relationship over past negativity! 

Can You Hypnotize Your Wife? 

The answer? Possibly. While professional hypnotists may make it seem very easy to do, the process takes understanding and consent.

According to research, children are more susceptible to hypnosis, and about 60 to 79 percent of people are moderately susceptible, while a small percentage (about 15%) of individuals is highly susceptible, some people are difficult to hypnotize.

There are also multiple myths regarding hypnosis – like the ability to be hypnotized against your will, the hypnotist taking control of your actions or complete amnesia on the actions done during your hypnotic state.

The truth is, hypnosis requires voluntary participation, and the hypnotist doesn’t control your actions; you are simply more open to their suggestions.

Also, most people remember everything that happens after hypnosis; any memory loss experienced is generally temporary. 

Once you learn how to hypnotize your wife and gain her consent, then you are one huge step towards improving your relationship! Reasons for needing to hypnotize your spouse may vary.

Some men want to help their wives get over certain negative traits while other men believe they should be completely in charge, and hypnosis can make their wives docile and more subservient. 

Whatever the case, always remember you cannot hypnotize someone against their will! 

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There are different ways to hypnotize your wife, but there are the basics, even with no experience. However, confidence and assurance are vital. 

1. Preparation 

Once your wife is open to trying out hypnosis, the next step is choosing a location with a suitable atmosphere. Whether you decide to do it in your home, it has to be a quiet and calm place.

Make sure she is seated (or standing if preferred) and that you won’t be interrupted by visitors or a ringing phone.

2. Induction 

Before you get to the main part, induction helps set the mood to make her comfortable and open-minded.

You can talk about what you plan on doing during the session and confirm that you are both on the same page on the results you are planning to achieve.

Once she is comfortable, move on towards creating a more soothing and trance state. 

Talk very calmly and ask her to focus.

The focus can be on deep breaths where you can line them up with yours then onto an object they can fixate. This is the dangling-object scenario that comes to mind when many people think of hypnotists. 

Pay attention to her eyes as you continue to guide her soothingly, encouraging her to relax if they still seem unfocused. Get her to loosen up one body part after another, relaxing the muscles from the legs to the face or vice versa.

You could say something like, “Feel the muscles in your feet and calves relax as you breathe in and out, it feels effortless.” Other relaxing words you can use: 

  • “You can feel yourself drifting deeper and deeper into a quiet and peaceful trance.” 
  • “As I talk to you, you’ll feel a heavy and relaxing feeling settling over you, getting stronger and stronger as I speak. Let yourself slip into the heavy feeling until you feel peaceful and fully relaxed.” 
  • “Imagine yourself floating on a serene and beautiful river, drifting away slowly. Feel your muscles relax as you enjoy the soothing sensation.” 

Don’t overdo it. Work on being an assuring voice. Tell her what to do rather than asking, and repeat as much as you need to get her completely relaxed. 

3. Hypnosis 

By now, you know that hypnosis can be therapeutic, but it can also have bad results if you’re not doing it right.

This is why professional hypnotherapists use the power of suggestion by nudging the patient towards a possible right solution rather than telling participants exactly what to do.

Interestingly, just putting your wife in a hypnotic state can help minimize any anxiety and stress she could be having. For the problems she may be dealing with, help your wife imagine what it would feel like to succeed or get over the particular problem coming in between you two.

What does that possible change make her feel? What does she think needs to be done to get there? 

By helping your wife envision a life without the issues that have been hampering your marriage, you can help her learn how to heal herself.

Whether she’s dealing with low self-esteem, a particular addiction, negative behavior or phobia, hypnosis could be a great tool to awareness and positive change.

Understand that the entire hypnotic process is made much easier by her wanting to resolve the issues in the first place. 

4. Waking Up 

After finishing the session, it’s time to get her out of the trance gently. Don’t jerk her out of a deep trance. Guide her slowly into awareness until she’s awake and alert. 

You can tell her that she’s waking up slowly as you count to ten, or help her visualize walking up the stairs and waking up with each step they take.

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Once she’s awake, ask her how the experience was: what was comfortable, what wasn’t, and what she thinks. Don’t force her into a conversation about the experience if she isn’t ready.

Final Word 

Whatever the problems you are going through in your marriage, it is wise to remember that hypnosis is not a quick fix for your marriage. Hypnosis is mainly a means to relax and self-reflect – not a concrete mental health solution.